How one decision changed my life
This post is for everyone who thinks there could be more to their life but isn’t sure how to change it.
Starting from December 2012:
I was working in Moscow at a very good company in terms of societal standards –-world-famous brand, good salary plus benefits (car, food, gym..etc), smart and result-oriented colleagues, and all at a national level of operations.
My parents were thrilled that after several years in AIESEC (and other crazy projects), their daughter finally was on the way to “setting up a stable life.” I even had great friends close by, great living conditions, pursued my own hobbies and even had my own small business. Sounds good, doesn’t it?
Yes, good. But not great.
I wasn’t happy enough. Though my job was interesting, it was not meaningful to me and not in an area I saw myself longterm. Everyday I felt that I gave energy nowhere–spending time but not living life.
I thought to change some things, but was faced with so many hesitations. My parents were happy, and I had a “future” at my current job. Plus, why change everything? I thought, “other people don’t have even this,” and I was not sure if I would find something better.
I still attempted to find a new job, but had no immediate success. I was so busy – I didn’t have time and energy to even think about what I wanted.
Time was running out… each day, week, month… I kept telling to myself: “Next month I’ll look for something else– I’m too busy to think about it now.”
One year passed.
In November 2013, it finally happened.
And It was one of the hardest decisions of my life. people kept asking me “Why did you do that? It’s economical crisis now”, or “What did you find better? Nothing yet? Ummm…” That time I had only my personal business, operations weren’t huge, and my day-to-day living conditions were dependant on what I sold that day.
It was the most unstable time of my life, but worth all the rewards it would bring…
Today is November 2014 and I am living a completely different life, I will share just several things.
In just 2014 alone I have gone from completely instability to having one of the fullest years of my life.
1) I was part of organizing committee to one of the biggest world events–the Olympic games in SOCHI. This opportunity came to my life randomly. I spent 2 months in a great city near the sea and mountains, with wonderful people, all whilst creating an epic event. It’s one of the best experiences I had.
2) My friends came to my city and we spent time in the winter mountains together;
3) After the Olympics, I was living a lifestyle that I currently plan for my future – I had my small business, a part-time job within an amazing INTERSELIGER team, I even ventured out and explored other professional areas.
I had opportunity to work from many different places, to make my mornings as i like – with yoga and meditations, to meet with friends. It’s maybe small things, but life consists of small things, right?
5) I spent almost 1 month with my family;
6) I found my place to live and work for next couples of years – after a 3-4 months selection process, Imoved to a new country, Malaysia, and began working for Mindvalley where I found all I want for my current period of life – international extremely talented team with different backgrounds but the same values, I’m making on-line products that changes lives of people and creating new education. And I’m working in a small team, where I can do a lot of different things, so it’ learning every day. Plus new country – I wanted to live in different countries for a while. I’ve now been here for a bit more than 3 months, and I don’t remember one day when I wasn’t happy.
7) And I’m sure, that a lot of awesome projects, people and events will come to my life, that I will achieve all my dreams.
I know that every single day brings me love, learnings, meaningfulness, great people, and interesting experiences!
My 2014 has been one of the greatest years in my life (by the way, I have 2 months ahead, wo-hooo!!). I didn’t expect that my life would ever be like that.
So how did I do that?
I made a strong decision that I will be happy every day. I decided that i will do only what I really like. This was my new way of living, no matter what changes I had to make or no matter how scary.
Now, Getting there wasn’t easy for me.
While searching for jobs, I felt disheartened by the lack of good matches for me. There was also so many interviews and applications.
Also I didn’t have a stable source of money.
I felt that I failed while others achieved so much more than me.
I was trying to understand what i wanted – not based on education or society standards, but based on what I really wanted. But…
I started to meditate, visualise, feel gratitude for all moments I had and, most importantly, I believed that everything was great and had faith in my small steps forward.
The scariest thing for me was telling my parents that I had quit my job. I had always wanted to make them happy, to “meet their expectations” and they had always told me to not even think about quitting the company I worked for.
I called them: “I quit my job. I have no options ahead and I don’t know what I want, and it will take time to me to understand and find” (I was really really nervous).
But, unexpectedly, my father replied: ”Don’t take it so seriously. Life is too short and you are too young to worry about it – it’s just a job! You will find your way. We love you”.
That was so huge surprise for me, I realised that sometimes we create fear to be more than what it actually is! And we will never know “what will happen if” until we try that thing and face it.
Why do I share this? Because this is not just “quitting the job story.” This is making a decision about life.
At this moment, I don’t care what society tells me what to do, I live MY life.
I want to share my main learnings and I hope it will inspire at least someone:
1) Life is too short to just spend time without happiness and meaningfulness. Create it for yourself and make the decision to do it.
2) We always think our problems are bigger than what they actually are. Life is simple.
3) Everything big starts with one small step.
I wish that if you don’t like something in life, have the courage to change it and start with that one step you’ve just dreamed of taking (you know what this step should be). Most importantly, be happy every day of your life. From my experience, it can make a world of different and open your life to so many beautiful possibilities.
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